What Are We Afraid Of?

There are many types of fear in the world. There is a long list of phobias. There are things that scare us in our daily lives like spiders for some, lizards, traffic and so many other things. All the fears that we have can be categorized into 5 large types of fears that are common in all human beings across the world.

1.     Existential Fear.

It is basically the fear of not being alive anymore. It is the fear of death. You know that tingling sensation you get within when you look over a mountain or when you stand on the roof of a skyscraper and look down. It is the fear in us of not surviving, otherwise also known as the survival instinct. It is something common to all humans and even all animals.

2.     Fear of Mutilation.

It is the fear of losing the normal functionality of our body parts either temporarily or permanently. It is also the fear of the pain that comes with mutilation. It is the fear of snakes, the neighbor’s dog, the possibility of secret existence of snakes that can combine with other snakes to create one giant super-snake; you know what I am talking about.

3.     Fear of Losing Autonomy.

Have you ever felt that you were imprisoned? Have you felt like the walls are closing in and you cannot breathe?  It is the feeling of not being in control of ourselves and losing control of our body or thoughts. People who go through sleep paralysis experience this often and the fear that comes with it. The important difference between the above and this is that here we are afraid of losing control whereas in the above we are afraid of losing the functionality.

4.     Fear of Abandonment.

It is the fear of being ignored and left alone. It is the fear of losing your friends and family. It is more of a psychological fear than physical one but it is as devastating as the others. We never want to be abandoned by someone close to us and we don’t like separation from someone at all.

5.     Fear of Ego-Burst.

It is the fear of losing your desirability among the society. It is the fear of humiliation, or not being good enough. It comes from both the society and an individual. An individual may feel afraid of doing of something if it means he would lose his respect in society. He might have learned this either from past experiences with society or from an inborn tendency to be liked.

I am scared of many things.  I am scared of spiders, bees, koalas with machetes instead of hands and a lot of other stuff.

There is another fear that I have. A fear that makes me more scared than anything else. It instantly freezes me for a second and makes me question every single decision I have made. It is the fear of failure. It is the fear of not being good enough and not being able to do what I wish to do with my blog.

I know I started just a year ago but I constantly feel like I am not reaching the heights or the people I should be. I get scared that I won’t be where I want to be. I am scared that I won’t help but rather end up in an echo chamber just talking about myself.

I want to reach out, I want do more but I also don’t know how or what, and that ignorance scares me.

I will be open to ideas though and suggestions. I do need them right now.


15 Replies to “What Are We Afraid Of?”

  1. Well that was interesting … I appear to have 5 types of fear. No wonder I’m such an anxious and jumpy individual. I only have to think of something and my hands and toes start tingling and my stomach twists … is this normal? Probably not, but perhaps it’s common. For example, if I think about looking at a train coming into a station, I imagine getting caught on the tracks and being mutilated (weird but true), if I even think about standing on a chair to change a lightbulb, my toes and fingers are now tingling (nb it’s not the changing of the bulb, it’s the standing on a wobbly chair). Any suggestions and I’m open to them. Great post and thanks for sharing this info.

    1. I know what thats like! I don’t have any suggestions that might help off of my head but I could look into it on the web and share it with you if that helps. When I get up an escalator I immediately think of getting sucked into it and never returning. The same is with the elevator. It’s pretty common it seems.

      1. Yes! With escalators for me it’s fingers getting caught up in the mechanics of it all … grim thoughts! But, yes please any suggestions very welcome ☀️☀️

      2. Actually I actually needed some suggestions from you 😅. Your blog has grown rapidly and I was looking for some advice into how you managed to do that.

      3. Golly! That’s a first …. thank you 😊. Quite frankly I don’t know much about ‘collecting followers’. I think I have almost 300 and I started doing this in about the first week of January. But others have thousands! I daresay though they’ve been at it for years. I write something probably 5 days out of 7 and although the main focus is on depression and anxiety, I often go off piste! I read other people’s blogs and comment on them, and it all takes time so then I feel guilty … but … the fact of the matter is that I love it. I love writing and I love reading. Don’t know if that helps? ☀️

      4. See that is the funny thing. I have been at this for a year and I have labored to 220. I guess reading and commenting on other people’s blogs plays a big role. Thanks for the helpful advice 😊

      5. I suspect that’s it … what I have found is that very quickly you sort of get to know people (as much as one can via cyberspace!) and they become friends. All a little odd, but absolutely lovely. And we open up a little more and reveal ourselves and perhaps gradually even show a bit of vulnerability and they do too which is wonderful … and we find ourselves able to really talk far more than with family or friends that we actually see. Nobody judges, we’re all in the same boat. It’s heaven. You’ve got a follower in me. X

      6. I have never really made a cyber friend out of fear and anxiety. If that’s how it is maybe I should go ahead and give it a chance. 👌

      7. Go for it! I find that the more I reveal of myself, faults and all, the more I get back so to speak! It’s all a bit weird but really lovely when you hit it off with someone and you find that you’re both as strange as each other. It’s rather a relief to find I’m not alone!

  2. Don’t expect things to change so quickly.Have patience and you will achieve all that you want.ln your heart of hearts you know your capability.Have faith.

  3. fear is an interesting phenomena,invisible but still very much present,and come circumstances and it is right in front of you.we want to get rid of it ,sometimes we manage and sometimes we cant.

    1. Thank you! I read them in the psychology today article listed below. I just had to put it out there for my followers as well 🙂

    1. These fears are what make us who we are. I tried to study about how fear has developed over millions of years through natural selection and this is what I could gather

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