Volunteering & Mental Health

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A few days back something small and totally random happened. I had a cup of coffee that I couldn’t drink at all. My stomach was full and I was thinking of dropping it in the trash can. My eyes caught those of a guard nearby who had a small umbrella against the scorching sun. I offered her the coffee and she happily accepted. Ever since then we greet each other warmly whenever we cross paths. It was a random act and I tried to figure out why I did that. Did I do that because I wanted to help her? Or did I do it because I feel good when I help someone?

The two questions are almost identical but they have different implications. If I did something because I felt good, there are chances I did it to feel good myself. This gives it a more selfish connotation. The other implies that I did just like that, without any expectation of reward. When you think about it, feeling good on doing something is a action-reward mechanism as well.

Volunteering

Something you might have heard often is that volunteering reduces depression. There are various articles that say volunteering releases Oxytocin which makes us feel good. Other points are that looking at people less fortunate than us gives us a perspective. They also say that having your mind occupied at all times gives it less time to be depressed. I tend to disagree with these opinions.

A Different View.

I have always said that I don’t believe seeing people less fortunate than us makes us feel better. I believe that it makes us repress our problems and issues for a while, but not for long. Repression of depression is not the same as curing it. If we turn away from our problems and believe that it could always be worse, at some point in time, the thought that it could always be better will also prop up and that is when the repressed issues will emerge with an unseen force. I agree that helping people releases oxytocin but again, it is a temporary respite, not a permanent fix.

It is also important to point out that no study has claimed to reduce depression is someone who had been diagnosed with clinical depression. They have said that, by volunteering, increase in severity of feelings of depression reduces. They haven’t said that a person who is depressed would be less depressed after this. This is something which we often fail to notice and end up giving one of our trademark misinformed advices.

The Depressed Mind.

Another thing about the depressed mind is that when it is told that something is going to help it, the chances of it actually helping decreases. This is a very peculiar and yet valid observation. It happened with me when I was told something would help me. My mind kept repeating that I cannot let it help me and it ended up having no effect. This is also why it is important to do something because you want to do it, not because you want something in return from it.

A depressed mind is very complex and hard to understand. It is always in a self destruct mode which makes help so hard to introduce.

Volunteering may help, but, like many possible solutions, it won’t be permanent.

 


14 Comments

Thinking Out Loud · April 24, 2018 at 1:32 PM

This is true…I can say from experience that volunteering 100% helps with my depression. I am part of an organization called Big Brothers Big Sisters of America and we get paired up with a child who is either in need of a mentor or guardian figure. I plan and go on different outings with her twice a month. it causes me to plan ahead fun and exciting things to do that neither of us would normally do. Every time I am with her I forget about everything else going on in my life because I am focusing on helping her grow and get the attention that she needs and deserves. I would highly recommend a program like this, or any type of non-profit organization to those with depression and/or anxiety to help cope. It gives you something to look forward to and a sense of responsibility. It feels good to be needed sometimes.

    stacyzinha · April 24, 2018 at 6:24 PM

    I did Big Brother Big Sister for many years. It was an amazing experience and it’s so nice to see my Little grow up into an independent young woman now 🙂

      knightofsteel · April 24, 2018 at 11:55 PM

      You guys are sharing a really amazing story. Glad you found a way to cope at the time.

    knightofsteel · April 24, 2018 at 11:57 PM

    Hey that’s really good to hear. Would you like to share your story on out blog as well? Recovery stories always serve as inspiration to those struggling right now.

syncwithdeep · April 24, 2018 at 6:41 PM

Volunteering really does help. It easily distracts the negative thoughts and keeps you occupied with the task. It is a pleasure to volunteer, especially volunteering in par with the profession. A teacher enjoys volunteer teaching, a chef can enjoy teaching somebody who does nor cooking. Not everyone come forward to volunteer due to the work and family imbalance. It gives a temporary relief and to make it permanent one should consult the doctor for sure.

    knightofsteel · April 24, 2018 at 11:54 PM

    Exactly what I was trying to get through 🙂

knightofsteel · April 24, 2018 at 11:56 PM

Hey, that’s really good to hear. Would you like to share your story with my viewers as well? We could always use recovery stories as inspiration for our readers.

sukrisblog · April 25, 2018 at 11:02 AM

A depressed mind is not easy to understand but as you say volunteering may help temporarily. Yet atleast there would be some.respite

    knightofsteel · April 25, 2018 at 11:22 AM

    Indeed. A temporary respite is still a respite.

An@m! · April 25, 2018 at 11:59 AM

Volunteering indeed helps, But isn’t it hard to do that?? Not easy but yes worth it.

    knightofsteel · April 25, 2018 at 12:00 PM

    It’s hard yes but it depends on the type of volunteering you are doing. Giving someone some water on a hot day, distributing blankets among the poor on a cold night, all of them are types of volunteering. We don’t always need an organization to make us do something good.

      An@m! · April 25, 2018 at 12:15 PM

      Exactly !! jaha chaah waha raah 🙂

Neha · April 25, 2018 at 9:25 PM

When you’re going through a crappy phase, even a temporary feeling of pleasure is great. Worked for me anyway. All I did was give some cash and clothes and things, but it helped out some less fortunate folks and got a few girls through another year of school. And me through another dark phase. http://www.tobetterlives.com

    knightofsteel · April 25, 2018 at 11:56 PM

    That’s what it is all about. If it helps you and someone else, there is nothing wrong with it.

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